What if someone told you that you will never make it in life? How would you feel? I made this video earlier this year but have never really shown it to anyone because I wasn’t ready emotionally. In my life, I am blessed by many people and friends who truly believed in me, some believed in my abilities and many whom we trusted each other as friends wishing the best for each other and there are some who looked up to me because they have seen what I could do. I didn’t want them to know inside, I was afraid I couldn’t live up to their expectations and mine.
Having being sort of un-modest before this sentence, I would even it up to say that there are also some who do not think much of me. I would think that you and me have encountered this before, the people who do not believe in us. This is why this video was made, to remind myself the feeling that I felt when people told me I will never make it in life. Today, I wish to share it with you, to let you know that you are not alone when you feel that sometimes. Some comfort for the both of us my friend.
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An Insult
Seriously speaking, I take it as a great insult when people indirectly tell us that we can never make it in life, for the fact that if you are a human being who have any self respect for yourself, anger just fumes up within us when there are people who tell us that we cannot make it, as in telling us that our lives are worthless and without value to society.
However, after the anger which lasts for just about 5 minutes, it brings comfort to me that those who say these kind of things do not say that only to one person but many. And it is often that they themselves are pretty average in life and resent other people’s success and gloat on other people’s misfortune, they seem to feed on the knowledge that they are neither here nor there, that is very they are safe and no one can judge upon them.
I will not deny that I myself am prone to this behaviour sometimes and I am quite sure that readers will know that we are referring to those who are over the limit and live it as part of their lives by being super negative. I think most of us will choose to shun them…and we know that others will shun us if we behave like them someday. A warning to each of us.
For myself, I am ready to show this video, though not professionally made, to my friends. Beyond that smile and strong image I show often, I am not unbreakable and I was weak though I do not show it. I trust that you and I have felt this feeling ourselves sometimes yet we do not show it. I imagine that you and I are quite alike, we rather suffer alone sometimes and transfer this feeling to somewhere else, sometimes through art, music and in this case, videos. If you have done something similar, do let me know and if you feel comfortable, share it with me. Thank you my friend.
Do leave a comment about what you think about this video and if you think it’s good and would be nice for a friend who is going through a rough patch to see it, please refer them to this page or embed it on your blog/website. It’s perfectly all right. Thank you my friends.
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Didn’t find your video mentioned here, but wanted to share about the time I was told by my father that I had two chances of making it … “zero and none” ….
I was new in recovery from drugs at the time and didn’t have a very good track record, to say the least….
I was so angered by his remark that I determined to show him … and I did! For the first year I stayed straight “at” him … and then creating a new life became something I did “for” me….
Many years later, he confessed to me that he had purposely chosen those words as a way of motivating me to change. Using reverse psychology (because he knew me well) he told me what he did because he figured I would do the very opposite. He (like so many other times, I hate to admit) was right. He innately understood that sometimes anger motivates us to bust through limitations that would otherwise hold us back. Sounds sort of like the disparaging remarks of others may have served you in similar ways.
I look forward to seeing your video…. Blessings, Lynne
Just saw your video … very nice…. You have a beautiful voice.Thanks for sharing. Lynne
When I graduated from a tiny high school (75 students) in Idaho, the guidance counselor told me that I ought to go to a junior college, that I didn’t much chance to make it in a large university. I was determined to prove him wrong when I enrolled in Brigham Young University (25,000 students at that time). I took 18.5 credit hours and got all A’s except a B+ in social dance. I felt vindicated!
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Loved the video, great stuff as always.
So true that it brought a tear to my eye.
- James.
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Thank you for sharing something so deeply personal to you.
More then likely most of the people reading this blog, those walking the creative edge, have heard similar comments time and again.
Some say Nay and some say Yay. Tis the way of the world.
In the end, if you live your life in harmony with your deepest aspirations, what others say begins to fade in importance because few take the time to really walk in another’s shoes before giving advice.
Live your life from the inside out and Magic does indeed Happen.
Thank you for being such a model to us all.
Blessings
Christie
Thank you for sharing this very personal story and thank you for being my friend on Facebook and Twitter. I, for one, look forward to more greatness from you.
You will succeed
Oh my goodness! Thank you for sharing an incredible video. I think most people can empathize with the message you have shared. We never admit it publicly, and stuff the hurt deep down inside us.
I, too, have a tear in my eye and a lump in my throat after having watched your video. You are so very brave for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I applaud you, and I thank you!
See you on Twitter.
Bless your heart.
Charlotte
Hi Maynas,
just recently took to reading your blog. I feel that it is great that you are breaking away from all the negativity in your life ( esp the people who talk you down and gloat over your misfortunes and you being depressed). The superiority/ inferiority game that I see a lot of people playing around me ruffles me sometimes. I put it down to these people being jealous/envious of your current success and it being time for me to depart from them and their toxicity in order for me to grow and achieve my own dreams/desires. If I cling on to them and the hurt and feed on the toxins that they release it would only be hampering myself and doing myself a great disservice.
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If I had people telling me “You will never make it.” I would tell them THANK YOU. Cos I am sure they will be watching me when I make it!
I have also come across inspiring personalities on Youtube and Revver. They always say THANK YOU even when people have insulted them openly! That may sound stupid at first but it’s a graceful action, no one can say you did wrong!
Have you heard of the “meditation technique” the late Napolean Hill taught? For several minutes daily, he closed himself in a dark room and envision himself doing things. He got nearer and nearer to what he wanted, and achieved. Eventually becoming foster parents (with his wife) to orphans and helping people to succeed the way he did.
Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn, Mark Joyner and a lot of other well-respected gurus are ‘followers’ of Napolean Hill.
BTW, I like the authentic Indian background music in your video! A proof that Indian music are not just for Indian movies!
What a great video!
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I agree with you!
Although no one said that in my face before, I can sense that some of them thought that way.
Never give up! Never surrender (to the despicable criticism of the inferiors)! Btw, the original quote was from the movie “Galaxy Quest”. :)
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