In every journey we take, small or great, there is always a beginning. Sometimes, it signifies the end of the previous journey and the beginning of a new one. While for many others, it appears to be just a different version of a journey which was already taken in the past. A journey which lessons we have already learnt and are comfortable with.

Each of us have much to teach with the experience we have gone through but many are not willing to share. Why is that so? What come be the reason? This could be some of the answers not many want to give but knowingly,holds truth.

Clarify the cause so that you can plan effective and efficient ways to get the results you want. Having realized that there is something more in this World you were looking for, there is no more time to lose once you have found it. This was the message from the previous post, "Before you change the world". This post will discuss briefly about some of the kind of things that can benefit people and why many people do not choose to do it.

Improving people’s lives by easing unnecessary burdens of time

I see it as a privilege for those who are able to convey their observations and experiences in life into words and pictures, to give those who are about to face a similar though different journey they have undertaken and the possibilities it might bring. Life has limited time allocated to it and it would do better for most to advance faster in life without solving problems which have already been solved, to invent the same wheel which has already been invented is but much of a waste of time. To make a tire and add grooves to it would prove much more beneficial to self and society.

Share the knowledge of how to invent the wheel and encourage them to improve it instead of trying to spend years (which would be deemed unnecessary) trying to invent the same thing. Just think, was there ever a time which you have spent many hours or days trying to find out that if you asked someone who already knew the answer, could have in that few seconds told you what you are looking for and with it, saved you the time and trouble? Life is too short to be too proud to ask, not know where to find answers that already exist and people who already have the knowledge you need.

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The Wheel

Many people care too much about trying to impress while forgetting to leave an impression. Once you have invented the wheel, tell the world not how fast it can turn but how much it can benefit them by using it as a wheelbarrow to transport more things than they can than with just their hands.

Perhaps years later, because of the wheel you have shown them and spread the knowledge around, someone else improved your design and made horse carriages to bring people from place to place much faster and saving them much time.

And when you see the wheels on the horse carriages, you know you deserve that smile knowing that you have contributed to something that benefited the whole society.

Many people choose to do what they would not have chosen to do

Many people dream of making the World a better place, by "inventing the wheel" or "innovation by creating horse carriages", some are able to fulfil their dreams while others keep it at the back of their mind as a dream. The reasons that many have given basically roots from the same source, that their priorities are firmly with improving the conditions of their own families and self before leaving any excess to think outside their circle of protection, that’s understandable. Few want to put their families at risk because of their own ambitions. But the other reason that I imagine, which caused many people not to do what they want to, is that they manage to convince themselves in their mind to submit to the powerful force of peer pressure.

Peer Pressure and Levels of Expectation

I know how it feels, because once, I was ready to give up my dreams for the sake of my girlfriend (ex now) the girl I was in love with and wanted to marry, to start a family with her, to give her a stable life as an engineer earning a fix salary without any surprises. I was willing to fit to her expectations because she was not comfortable with me trying to do stuff I consider "better" and "Me"….I almost did.

Stuff that I consider entrepreneurial and creative, sometimes people consider unnecessary clutter and laughed at me for doing so.

Some quick examples includes when in University, I handed in a 15 pages report when most people wrote 3, many who knew laughed at me and thought I was being foolish. Results came back, I got 90+, the second highest in the level was 70+, many failed. Other times. My report, 200+ pages, other people 80+, I won an state award…gave a presentation which when preparing, people told me it’s over the top…result…I scored the highest of the level. A second hand store which sold things from books to cars and extravagant advertising to get the word out? Almost everyone who knew me laughed at me, even those who didn’t knew me laughed…I persisted…result…people approach me to help them sell their things, even those who laughed at me before, people knew about this service and word spread around like wildfire…make money online? They laughed at me again….result…I earned $1000 within just hours of "work" ( I considered it fun!)

The point is, if I had listened to them and surrendered my instincts and ideas I have researched and believed in, many times with the only believer being myself, if I had crumpled at their laughter, I knew deep inside me that I could never have accomplished as much. I would have chosen not to do what I want to choose to do. But truth be told, I do chicken out sometimes, I am not a hero and neither do I want to make people think I am one. I am just an ordinary person trying to be myself, my true self…and my true self is flawed and imperfect.

Are you ok with a crying man?

Many times, I almost did succumb to peer pressure. When people ridicule you, it is difficult not to be unaffected. Like many, I appear unaffected "visibly". Yes, sometimes I doubt myself so much I cried for a minute or two before I sleep, doubting myself. In the morning, I wake up and wonder why I chose a different life as others, I felt like giving up, I cried. But a minute or two and that was it, logic must at times keep emotions in check to be able to do the right things. I realized that in life, the fear of how people might look at you is often more powerful than what logic tells us is right. If your ten dollar note dropped into a caged drain, would you life the cage and pick it up…even if there are many people around?

The logical answer is yes but you know that there are people who will choose to give it up…they might say the answer might be different if its a 50 dollar note because it’s more worth it….worth what? Embarrassing oneself? It’s their money for heaven’s sake! Do the right thing, get it back. One thing I have observed, most people don’t care anyway, the fear is many times just within ourselves at how people look at us…trust research…most people are too busy caring about how other people perceive them than bothering about us. One might be quite surprised at how the World just opens up and there are a great many things they are willing to do because they want to…when they realize this at some point of their lives.

Is peer pressure a big problem for you too? Naturally, people would think of that as the problem after they have read the above, but from problems come obvious solutions which are always there, we just have to see it. It becomes much easier when we understand how some things really work and which are just imaginarily so. Feel the fear but do what is right and logical anyway, cry if you must to yourself, it is not shameful to cry, I am a man and I cry as well when I am alone sometimes, if anything, for a reason to feel ok to cry when you want to, just think that someone else cry too when they feel like a thousand needles are piercing the heart. Be a real human who has emotions. But remember, try not to cry in front of people who you care for or care for you, crying does nothing for them but give them an unnecessary burden of not expressing their thoughts to you in future for fear of hurting a person who seem to be emotionally weak.

Why people like me chose to write things like this

I would imagine that many who may have chosen to put their thoughts into words, do so because they hope to bring people back to the dreams which they thought of last night but gave up in the morning. To tell them that “You can do it, keep believing in yourself, I will be your invisible support.” To tell them that there is someone like them who thought of the same thing once. To tell them that as long as there is a will, there will surely be a way.

Never leave, if there are more things that you can do here. Try, try, try until we succeed. That is the message I suppose, many of us hold in my minds. To be that hidden hand to give someone that little nudge forward, that someone who is falling back in chasing their dreams or about to abandon a principle which they know is right but hard to hold on to.

This is quite a long post and story, thank you if you have read it from start to over this line. My friend, as usual, I hope that you could leave a comment or two about what you think or if something similar happened to you in your life before. Do RSS this blog to follow through future posts and to spread the word that this blog exists. I am not ashamed to admit that I have got knowledge to share and also have things in life I am unsure of and hope to discuss with you and those who can help.

Thank you my friends. Hope to see you around often *Smiles*